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kaki varenka's avatar

The one who does the work is the one who can.

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kaki varenka's avatar

Thank you for this. It helps. Almost four years after my mother’s death from cancer I am still not completely sure what to make of the muddle of emotions around my gratitude that I was able to be her primary caregiver at the end of her life and my seething anger at everyone else in the family who wasn’t capable of it.

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Stephanie Gresham's avatar

I find a first draft in second person POV feels the most natural and “safe” when writing about hard things. Especially family related. Maybe it’s like stepping outside of yourself as a participant?

I appreciate the layering here of different perspectives. Thank you for sharing the vulnerable parts here.

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Swathi Desai's avatar

Thank you for sharing this. I love seeing the two perspectives, one after the other. Very moving.

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Malorie's avatar

This looking back from multiple perspectives is really a gift. Thank you for sharing of yourself and of your father with us 🤍

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ayotola's avatar

Oh Nana 💛

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